I’m going to try to summarise some of the things I’ve learned and I remind myself periodically.
Be honest. It shows you are dependable.
It might sound obvious, but people forget how even little lies or silly excuses can spoil relationships of all kinds. At work, if you don’t know how to do something, just say it. It’s probably better than being fired because you are a disaster at your assignments. You might also be surprised how in some circumstances, being direct is appreciated. Also learn when not to be too direct, though. Some people like it the diplomatic way.
Be patient, but not too much.
Nothing and no one are as seldom seen and hard to know as they seem. Of course, you shouldn’t sit down and wait for things to happen and a fair dose of pushing is some times required instead. However, being too pushy can as disastrous as being a liar. Develop your intuition, it is of great help in telling you when it is the right time. Think of it that way: the more you train your intuition, the faster it works, the less you have to wait, the sooner you can get into action.
Make friends, but not too many.
Most people we know are not real friends, but just people we know. A friend is someone who can put your interest above his/her own. A friend is someone you can talk to twice a year and it will still feel like you just chatted 2 days ago.
Spend time in the outdoors, possibly by yourself.
Take some time for yourself. Have a walk in the park on through the fields, depending on where you live. Go for a swim or sit on a mountain top. You choose the location. The elements will do the rest. You will come back more relaxed and who knows, maybe even with some solutions for problems.
Learn to say “No”, politely.
There are things we don’t know how to do and others we just don’t want to do. One person cannot save the whole world, nor fix everyone’s problems. Don’t feel obliged to say Yes to any help request, if it’s affecting yourself in a way that you don’t want. Some No’s can be replaced by Later’s. You are responsible for your own time. Manage it effectively.
Listen. You don’t learn anything from your own voice.
Let people express their thoughts and ideas, share their experiences, show you how they achieved their goals or tell you what they want to achieve. Then, and only then, you can think of an answer. Never be afraid to take your time to listen and understand information. Knowledge some times comes after silent processing of overwhelming quantities of information.